Does your no follow these thoughts? 🤔🤔🤔
Am i rude?
Am i uncool?
Am i allowed?
I will look Odd/unacceptable/uncultured.
I will be disliked/unloved.
I am incomplete.
I am not capable.
We all come across many situations in life where we are made to feel fool, uncultured or not so cool just because we refused to give into others style or way of being simply because it's just not part of us.
Bullies are everywhere, at school,college, work, society, families to even disguised form on social media. They make you believe material or intellectual luxuries are the only way to well being.
Speaking in their way or dressing up in their way is the only accepted way. While they have no idea of power of life,knowledge and integrity within. I feel pity for them because they are lost and just disconnected with themselves compelling them and others to do things which are detrimental to inner-self.
Shopaholism, greediness and stress etc all can be rooted in this.
Its time to take your power back! Here my friends, connection to your inner-self and doing what is acceptable to you comes to your rescue. In many ways it also saves you and your family from the ill effects of these mindless actions.
Look at your phone, clothes,vehicle, institutional attachments or anything that you possess or are part of and reflect what it is nurturing?
Is it complementing your well being or is it boosting your ego by getting external validation and praises in silent form?
For instance, as a 4-5 year old kid i wanted to be acceptable and important part of my friends.
I forced my mom to buy me a fancy pen pencil which she was reluctant to buy as it wasn't of any use. It didn't last more than a few days and was utter waste but gave me sense of cool kid. This is just earliest example, and such things just followed till I became consciously aware.
This fear of being disliked when we are disconnected with our self makes us seek external validation.
Self doubt brings in need of external validation which takes form of race of mindless materialism causing pollution of space, thoughts and actions.
When you know you are enough, you don't look for external validation. Reflect upon it and stay in awareness.Hold yourself with love through this, support and trust yourself.
Clear your mind and space of false belief of incompleteness which makes you seek external validation draining away energy and beauty from you.
Break this pattern and explore the beauty within, because the truth is each one of us is complete in this present.
This is the journey and we all learn through it. Breathe in fresh air and love yourself because you are enough.
I am in gratitude for such consciousness coming to me.
Love, kindness, simplicity, grounding and complete trust in one's self makes you strong to overcome such pressures and blooms your self growth!
Empower yourself to boldly say 'NO' to things or situations that do not align with your true self.
It's not cool to please others or go seeking for their validation at expense of conflict within.
Empowered No is the No without fear of feeling scared, judged or incomplete.
This is the cool way!
It saves lot of energy, resources and spares you of drama and stress.
It brings and creates lot of space for health, happiness, creativity and prosperity.
Stay true to yourself!
And as superheroes says,"Great power comes with great responsibility" don't be a bully to someone in your awareness!
Love and Love!
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